Meal Gifts

14
Nov

Tidings of Thanksgiving Challenge

Gratitude can be a mindset that changes how you view the world. In fact, gratitude, or giving thanks, is an act that is very contagious at its core. Unlike the flu, it is a great thing to pass along and is welcomed by all.

Dare to see the good in people around you and share it with them. Whether it’s November or any other month – we challenge you to experience what “Tidings of Thanksgiving” will do for you and your family, not to mention the Recipient(s)!

For the next 10 days, give a “Tiding” and show some “Thanksgiving”!

Tidings of Thanksgiving Challenge Check List:

  1. TEACHER TIDING: Write a “Thank You” to a Teacher or Coach that influenced you.
  2. SWEET TIDING: Give a pie or treat to a neighbor, because life is sweet.
  3. TIME TIDING: In appreciation for your parents or grandparents, call or stop by to visit an elderly person or couple to give a few minutes of your time and thank them for their advice & wisdom.
  4. SERVICE TIDING: Pay it forward. Have a family (or friend) meeting to brainstorm who you know that could use some “service” and plan to make it happen before Thanksgiving or within the next month (eg. Yard work, dinner, fill the pantry, encouragement letters, etc).
  5. FOOD TIDING: Be thankful for community support you’ve received in the past, and let it be someone else’s turn. Organize a Food Tidings Schedule for someone to give them hope through the holidays and/or to kick off the New Year (even if it’s just one meal a week or once a month for a few months, it doesn’t take much to help and brighten a day…and a life).
  6. TEXT TIDINGS: Text 2 people, thanking them for something they’ve done for you; even if it’s just something simple that they may not have realized they did.
  7. DINNER TIDING: Show warm appreciation for a friendship. Drop off a simple dinner to a family; the first family you think of, whether they “need” it or not.
  8. SPIRITUAL TIDING: Send a note of gratitude to your Pastor or the person that encourages you spiritually, thanking them for their influence, time and effort.
  9. FOLLOW UP TIDING: Follow up with someone and let them know you’re just thinking about them; maybe from a previous Food Tidings schedule or someone that you haven’t talked to in awhile. What name just popped up in your head? That’s the person.
  10. WORK TIDING: Give a gesture of kindness (note, snack, dinner, dessert, etc) to someone at work (yours or your spouse’s) letting them know you appreciate them and/or the work they do. 

Join us by spreading ‘Tidings’ of all sorts!

Simple gestures. A difference made, in you AND them.

24
Apr

How to Ask for Help without Making the Internet Mad

People dream of having a post go viral. However, this is a nightmare you want to avoid.

An expectant Philadelphia couple recently went viral for an eyebrow-raising request. In a post on another site like FoodTidings.com, the husband explained that he and his wife were expecting their first child — and, as social media users were fast to point out, expecting a lot from their neighbors, too. In his note, he asked for volunteers to help support them — via 30+ specific meals, emotional support and house chores. This was met with a cynical eye, to say the least.

In fact, their post was viciously ridiculed online. Given the backlash that was unleashed via national news outlets, I’m guessing that many new soon-to-be parents or people dealing with an illness might be hesitant to ask for help.

However, let me assure you – it’s OK to ask your friends, family members, neighbors and even co-workers for support. You just have to do it graciously.

Photo Credit: joemartinez.com

We were meant to do life together. When somebody is sick or has a baby, we want to rally around them. Although, asking complete strangers for food, then being very specific with what you want, feels demanding; especially in our tone-deaf, electronic world.

Whether you are about to have a baby, have a surgery scheduled or are dealing with a chronic illness, here are basic tips in asking for help – whether it’s online or in person:

“You just have to do it graciously.”

Leading with humility, grace and love smooths the path for support.

Let someone be your advocate

It can seem aggressive to personally post links all over message boards and social media sites. Rather, have a friend, family member, co-worker or church volunteer be the “Organizer”. Let somebody be your advocate and rally people on your behalf. Let them share, “Hey, our friend is going to be recovering over the next couple of weeks, let’s help.”

While it’s ideal for someone else to organize support on your behalf, the reality is when it comes to getting the word out, you or someone in your immediate family are often in the best position to reach your community. Generally, no one else will conveniently have access to all your contacts. You can very tastefully give support info by sharing something like, “Thank you to all who have offered to help our family, we are so grateful. My good friend asked me to share this with you…” (then, include the FoodTidings link or other info you are sharing). This is totally acceptable, and appreciated by those that know you.

Offer suggestions, don’t dictate

Supporters appreciate direction. Adding notes about dietary or medical restrictions are necessary (no one wants to make a condition worse!) and mentioning favorite foods or restaurants is super helpful. Asking strangers to make specific recipes is less reasonable; especially if there’s not a medical need.

To be clear, trying to eat “clean” or “Keto” is most often a choice, not a mandatory need. Chances are that you’ll cheat on any diet, at some point. Someone offering to make a meal for you is a great day not to be legalistic and to just enjoy the gift. You can hop right back on your “cleaner” wagon as soon as you are able.

Also, recognize that people want to help, but they do have their own lives going on; they may live far away, not be the best cook or just have a really busy week. Being willing to accept assistance in various forms; such as homemade meals, delivered meals, groceries, money gifts, chores, a visit or just a prayer. Gently outlining a few clear options for them is always nice, but allow people to figure out the best way they can support and contribute, guilt free. If you really can’t or don’t want to use a gift – feel free to (discreetly) give it away to someone that can use it. Let’s consider it regifting at its best – a win-win-win, with no hurt feelings.

Be grateful

Everyone wants to see the ‘star of the show’, and give their good wishes. If possible, make an effort to be on hand to accept the gifts your neighbors worked hard to deliver. However, most people will understand if recovering from surgery is expected to be particularly hard or that trying to catch naps to heal will have random timing. Coolers are on the porch can be used, but be sure that participants understand why that is necessary. Taping a “Hello” or “Sorry we missed you” note to the inside of the lid can be a surprise that will make them smile and let them know you wish you could have greeted them in person.

Always follow up with a thank you. The beauty of an online schedule is that it keeps a list of participants for you, so you don’t have to try to remember the details yourself. An email or handwritten note to acknowledge gifts is always welcomed and appreciated. 

In fact, in my book, a thank you is a requirement. I used to tell my kids, “If you’re not willing to write a thank you, then you shouldn’t take the gift.” If circumstances prevent you from doing a thank you yourself, be sure to ask someone to help with that, as well. A grateful heart goes a long way and I have no doubt that someone would love to be the hand that pays it forward for you.

Offer a hand

Do you know a family that is having a new baby, facing surgery, fighting cancer or dealing with a chronic illness? Save them from having to ask for help, see what support they could use and offer to be their advocate or organizer. Often, giving of yourself is so much sweeter than receiving.


Be An Advocate

Rally support for someone you know


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Crystal Van Dyke

FoodTidings Contributor

I loved FoodTidings.com at first sight. My husband and I had the opportunity to join the Food Tidings team in 2011 as Partners, after meeting the original co-founders at our church. I have a Bachelors in Public Administration from the University of Arizona (Go Wildcats!) and a Masters in Health Services Administration/Strategic Planning & Marketing from The George Washington University. We planned my early retirement from the market 3 kids in and was blessed with a 4th to complete us; finishing with 2 boys & 2 girls. Our oldest is now launched, happily married and proudly serving in the Air Force, while the three at home keep us on our toes, amazed and inspired. As a full-time Wife and Mom, this website is my side-gig that serves as a personal ministry for our family. Seeing caring communities created, hope spread and generosity in action continues to be a motivator for all of us.  Matt 5:16