New Year, new goals? How do you set your goals? Do you pick something from a bucket list, do you try to improve some area of your life or do you commit to stopping a bad habit? There are many motivations fo why we pick certain goals. However, of all the personal goal options, most of them are rooted in trying to be “happy”, right? The elusive challenge of just trying to be happy…
However, we want to let you in on a secret. We know of a sure way to happiness: “generosity”. I heard someone say, “I’ve never met an unhappy, generous person”. I haven’t either, have you? There’s something about generosity that is a universal principle. You give, and you get. You reap what you sow. Period.
However, generosity is rarely set as a “goal”. It’s often overlooked, taken for granted or considered a by-product of a nice act of kindness. Sure, we all try to “be nice” or “be kind”; at least, every now and then. However, imagine the impact you would have on your life if you made generosity a goal?
In fact, there is science behind it. Helping and serving others has proven to improve outcomes for others and YOU. Reduce depression, lift spirits, unlock happiness and make an impact that goes beyond a single act. These are just a few of the potential outcomes of putting others first and thinking beyond yourself. Don’t wait for the random and occasional acts of kindness; although, those are nice. Make generosity a part of your routine and everyday life; make it a goal.
We are inspired by Generous Giving’s (generousgiving.org) playbook, where they share that generosity extends from different aspects of your life. Using the acrostic: L.I.F.E.:
L – Labor (eg. Putting your hands or mind to work!)
I – Influence (eg. Who do you know, that can help someone else?)
F – Finances (eg. Giving, donating and sharing!)
E – Experience (eg. Your story was made to inspire, put it to use!)
Seasons of life will change how, where and when you serve others. However, you’ll never regret pouring into others and being generous…from whichever aspect fits best, at the time. We hope you make this your best year, yet — and share some aspect of your L.I.F.E. with others.
Be intentional about generosity. Infuse generosity into your life by committing to it and taking small steps to follow through and make it become part of who you are. We dare you — make generosity a goal and discover how much your life will change; yours and others.
Have a goal of being “happy”? Be generous.
Generous people are always the happiest people.
Be an Organizer. Be generous. Be happy.
Gratitude can be a mindset that changes how you view the world. In fact, gratitude, or giving thanks, is an act that is very contagious at its core. Unlike the flu, it is a great thing to pass along and is welcomed by all.
Dare to see the good in people around you and share it with them. Whether it’s November or any other month – we challenge you to experience what “Tidings of Thanksgiving” will do for you and your family, not to mention the Recipient(s)!
For the next 10 days, give a “Tiding” and show some “Thanksgiving”!
Tidings of Thanksgiving Challenge Check List:
Join us by spreading ‘Tidings’ of all sorts!
Simple gestures. A difference made, in you AND them.
People dream of having a post go viral. However, this is a nightmare you want to avoid.
An expectant Philadelphia couple recently went viral for an eyebrow-raising request. In a post on another site like FoodTidings.com, the husband explained that he and his wife were expecting their first child — and, as social media users were fast to point out, expecting a lot from their neighbors, too. In his note, he asked for volunteers to help support them — via 30+ specific meals, emotional support and house chores. This was met with a cynical eye, to say the least.
In fact, their post was viciously ridiculed online. Given the backlash that was unleashed via national news outlets, I’m guessing that many new soon-to-be parents or people dealing with an illness might be hesitant to ask for help.
However, let me assure you – it’s OK to ask your friends, family members, neighbors and even co-workers for support. You just have to do it graciously.
We were meant to do life together. When somebody is sick or has a baby, we want to rally around them. Although, asking complete strangers for food, then being very specific with what you want, feels demanding; especially in our tone-deaf, electronic world.
Whether you are about to have a baby, have a surgery scheduled or are dealing with a chronic illness, here are basic tips in asking for help – whether it’s online or in person:
“You just have to do it graciously.”Leading with humility, grace and love smooths the path for support.
It can seem aggressive to personally post links all over message boards and social media sites. Rather, have a friend, family member, co-worker or church volunteer be the “Organizer”. Let somebody be your advocate and rally people on your behalf. Let them share, “Hey, our friend is going to be recovering over the next couple of weeks, let’s help.”
While it’s ideal for someone else to organize support on your behalf, the reality is when it comes to getting the word out, you or someone in your immediate family are often in the best position to reach your community. Generally, no one else will conveniently have access to all your contacts. You can very tastefully give support info by sharing something like, “Thank you to all who have offered to help our family, we are so grateful. My good friend asked me to share this with you…” (then, include the FoodTidings link or other info you are sharing). This is totally acceptable, and appreciated by those that know you.
Supporters appreciate direction. Adding notes about dietary or medical restrictions are necessary (no one wants to make a condition worse!) and mentioning favorite foods or restaurants is super helpful. Asking strangers to make specific recipes is less reasonable; especially if there’s not a medical need.
To be clear, trying to eat “clean” or “Keto” is most often a choice, not a mandatory need. Chances are that you’ll cheat on any diet, at some point. Someone offering to make a meal for you is a great day not to be legalistic and to just enjoy the gift. You can hop right back on your “cleaner” wagon as soon as you are able.
Also, recognize that people want to help, but they do have their own lives going on; they may live far away, not be the best cook or just have a really busy week. Being willing to accept assistance in various forms; such as homemade meals, delivered meals, groceries, money gifts, chores, a visit or just a prayer. Gently outlining a few clear options for them is always nice, but allow people to figure out the best way they can support and contribute, guilt free. If you really can’t or don’t want to use a gift – feel free to (discreetly) give it away to someone that can use it. Let’s consider it regifting at its best – a win-win-win, with no hurt feelings.
Everyone wants to see the ‘star of the show’, and give their good wishes. If possible, make an effort to be on hand to accept the gifts your neighbors worked hard to deliver. However, most people will understand if recovering from surgery is expected to be particularly hard or that trying to catch naps to heal will have random timing. Coolers are on the porch can be used, but be sure that participants understand why that is necessary. Taping a “Hello” or “Sorry we missed you” note to the inside of the lid can be a surprise that will make them smile and let them know you wish you could have greeted them in person.
Always follow up with a thank you. The beauty of an online schedule is that it keeps a list of participants for you, so you don’t have to try to remember the details yourself. An email or handwritten note to acknowledge gifts is always welcomed and appreciated.
In fact, in my book, a thank you is a requirement. I used to tell my kids, “If you’re not willing to write a thank you, then you shouldn’t take the gift.” If circumstances prevent you from doing a thank you yourself, be sure to ask someone to help with that, as well. A grateful heart goes a long way and I have no doubt that someone would love to be the hand that pays it forward for you.
Do you know a family that is having a new baby, facing surgery, fighting cancer or dealing with a chronic illness? Save them from having to ask for help, see what support they could use and offer to be their advocate or organizer. Often, giving of yourself is so much sweeter than receiving.
Rally support for someone you know
I loved FoodTidings.com at first sight. My husband and I had the opportunity to join the Food Tidings team in 2011 as Partners, after meeting the original co-founders at our church. I have a Bachelors in Public Administration from the University of Arizona (Go Wildcats!) and a Masters in Health Services Administration/Strategic Planning & Marketing from The George Washington University. We planned my early retirement from the market 3 kids in and was blessed with a 4th to complete us; finishing with 2 boys & 2 girls. Our oldest is now launched, happily married and proudly serving in the Air Force, while the three at home keep us on our toes, amazed and inspired. As a full-time Wife and Mom, this website is my side-gig that serves as a personal ministry for our family. Seeing caring communities created, hope spread and generosity in action continues to be a motivator for all of us. Matt 5:16